Keep it simple.

Life’s complicated. So I like to keep things a simple as possible, I like to break things down and get right to the point. When I was training as a counsellor, my tutor said by the end of this course you’ll say less but mean more. He was right. Politicians are the opposite, they say […]

Support network.

One of the most important things I have in my life is a support network. What this means is I have three people in my life who I can call upon if I have a problem or a crisis. This works both ways too. Three because it’s the magic number and when one is otherwise […]

Other help!

There are many techniques I use to change my mood. One I really like and do from time to time is EFT. This stands for emotional freedom technique, I purchased a small book about it called ‘eft in your pocket by Isy Grigg’ ….. Eft really works and this is a really simple guide that […]

The second book…..

When I get angry and I do get angry I use the technique in our second book. This is the most useful one to use alone! Today my daughter was angry and she was being unsociable with it, I asked her to go for some time out on her own to do the technique. She […]

Co sleeping and why

One of the main characters in book is the frightened little girl.

When I was little, I was terrified of the dark and sleeping alone. My parents went through years of trying to get me to sleep, driving me about in their car, inevitably when they got me out, I woke up. 

When I woke up at […]

Perfecty normal

When I came out of corporate business and started navel gazing, I had two feelings- ok and really not ok! We are constantly taught anger is bad in the media and that we should not feel negative emotions.
 It’s not nice to feel negative emotions, however it’s what we do with them that matters. It […]

What school didn’t teach me?

What I liked about my daughter’s primary school was they had a board with magnets with everyone’s name on and in the morning the children would go into class and put the magnets on the board where they matched. The board had a picture of a sun one side and rain the other it said […]


The other day my daughter was upset with her brother, she was angry and wanted to hit him! One thing I didn’t realise (as I’m an only child) is that siblings can fight! My wish as a child was to have a brother or sister, I hadn’t equated that might end up in fights and […]

The attachment theory

It’s just a theory but boy did it affect me when I learnt about it during my training as a counsellor. 

For the layperson, it’s still a bit technical as it has lots of references to clinical studies, scientific studies and other reference books. A good reference book that makes it simple-ish (!) is ‘Why […]

Probation alteration

I volunteered for a treatment facility for drug and alcohol addiction for years, during this time one thing I noticed was feelings drive most of people I met to alter the way they felt. If they are happy they would want to prolong it and if they were feeling anything negative they wouldn’t want to […]